1. to grant pardon for or remission of (an offense, debt, etc.); absolve.
2. to give up all claim on account of; remit (a debt, obligation, etc.).
3. to grant pardon to (a person).
4. to cease to feel resentment against: to forgive one’s enemies.
A while back, I did what I do best in life. I opened my mouth and inserted my foot. It’s not that I meant to, it was just a subject that I tend to have no control over the way I react.
I tried to apologize. I did everything I could think of to make amends, but nothing has worked, and since this occurred I actually have changed the way I handle difficult situations.
I realize that not everyone can like everyone in this crazy world of ours, but I think I am a pretty nice person. I try so hard and this is hurting me.
29 years ago when that impaired driver hit my car, I was so filled with hate and rage, that it all but consumed me.
I spent years in therapy to get to the point where I could forgive the man who did this. It was forgive or die for me.
Now it’s not like I saw him and gave him an easy pass of actually forgiving him. In fact the forgiveness was in my mind and my heart. I will never forget, but I did have to let it go.
I think letting go is part of the forgiving process.
(Isn’t it for everyone?)
Well, I will try to let it go. I do not want to begin a battle. I just need to walk away.
Have you had something like this happen? How did you handle things when after several apologies, you are not forgiven?