What Really Matters

I read a book once, written by Charles Krauthammer called “Things That Matter”.

I read it as he used his older articles to convey what is truly important in life.

Many people will never get it. Many people will live totally self centered lives and never know the special friendship where you give yourself totally to a loved one, during their final days

I have been blessed. Not only have I enjoyed a close and loving friendship for 25 years with my friend, but right now, I am able to be here to give her love, support, and quiet peace.

I am so thankful for this. There are times when special people pass from this life to the next and you never have the chance to tell them how special they are and how much you love them. I have been given this gift and in the quiet of her room, when she sleeps or wakes, I am here.

So what really matters in this crazy world?

Love. Selfless, pure, gentle love.

Someone wrote once if you were lucky to know a true selfless love, you were the luckiest person alive.

I have been  very lucky my friends! Very lucky, indeed!

Starting The Year

Yesterday was a sad day around here. Yes, folks, the Christmas tree with all the beautiful lights came down and was put away for another year!


Honestly, I love those warm lights that seem to touch the depths of my soul and fill me with happiness. I just wish people wouldn’t think I was some sort of crazy “Dog Crazy-Christmas Lady” should I decide to leave the tree up year round! Even though, technically I am!

Arnie and Anneliese slept most of the day on Saturday, but both had good appetites and so I fed them soft food, so as not to hurt their mouths. Today I will feed them a little dry food with their wet food and see what happens.

I am not sure I mentioned that Anneliese outweighed her brother at the Vets the other day! Anneliese is a lot like her Mama, Greta. They never met a meal they didn’t want to devour! However, I will need to get Anneliese on a stricter diet once her mouth is healed.

I had to bring in a pair of sneakers to return to Amazon yesterday. So I brought Arnie along with me, so we could stop in at the State Liquor Store and see his girlfriend, Rebecca. He was so happy to see her that he forgot he had little aches and pains from his surgery!

The last thing on my list yesterday was making myself a temporary retainer to keep myself from grinding my teeth. This is one of the causes of all my dental pain.


The molding process went well, and last night I slept with it for the first time. It felt weird! But I am determined to wear it and stop myself from grinding my teeth.



I was in the Post Office on Friday when I was bumped into. I had my phone out to give the Clerk a claim number. Bump! The phone went flying onto the marble floor! The Otterbox was fine and so was the phone. The only casualty was the protective tempered glass screen! Whew! I will be ordering a new one!

Cell screen

Although I am not too happy about the broken screen protector, I am also happy about it. You see, it worked! It was a wee bit pricey when I bought it a year and a half ago, but I wanted to ensure that the phone was protected. The Otterbox does a great job, but they no longer provide screen protectors the way they used to. I bought this diectly from Verizon, and it did what they said that it would!


Weekend Wrap!

On Sunday I felt tired and decided to perform tasks that were not too difficult. Besides cooking meals, and running to the grocery to pick up some bread for Jack and a few vegetables for us to enjoy, I decided to sit down and wrap presents.

This year I have cherished every package I have wrapped. I have used decorative strings and bows and made each package special. But all that cutting, wrapping and taping takes time. And my wrapping spot seemed like a bomb blew up in there during the toughest part of the job


I have blurred out a few items so the mystery remains until Christmas Day. But honestly, isn’t this a disaster?

It actually doesn’t look like this anymore because all the packages are wrapped and neatly stored in boxes to go to Mandy’s house on Christmas Day.

Today (Monday) I need to call our Veterinarian and bring in Arnie. The darling boy has not been acting like himself at all. He seems not to feel well.

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He also has two lumps on his chest. Six months ago he had one, and I was told to watch it. Well, now that one is larger and a second lump is in the area. So, this means a visit to our Vet is in order.

I would also like to get the laundry going and actually putter around and get the house in some sort of order. I’ve just been so busy and let things get away from me.

Looking at the stuff above, it looks like I will have a busy Monday. And the travel out to the Vets will be slightly tricky as we are due for some snow. However, I do not want to wait. Arnie’s an old boy now.

Have a great week, everyone, finish your Christmas Shopping, listen to a few Christmas Carols and enjoy the peace and love of the season.


Life Or Something Like It

I suppose everyone has days like this. I was running around trying to leave here by 9:45 yesterday morning, as both Jack and I had doctor’s appointments. I was doing fairly well, and I was pleased with this, and feeling confident the day would go well.


On the way down, despite my warnings, Jack was still driving too fast. It’s his days as a pilot, I tell you. He has never understood, that it is fast in the sky and slow on the ground! He did not get stopped, but I felt the need to nag and pull my seatbelt a little tighter.

We got down in plenty of time, and we each went our own ways to see our doctors. The plan was, see our doctors and go for a nice leisurely lunch before returning for Jack’s second appointment.

My appointment went well. My doctor weighed me and on her scale, since my last visit, I had lost 11 pounds! My blood pressure was down and perfect and everything else was looking good.

She asked about the changes in my eating and I explained that I was off sugar, limiting carbs and eating fresh vegetables and protein. Some fruit too! She liked what she was seeing and hearing, so despite my somewhat horrible cholesterol levels, she is giving me three months to get that inline. Also, since my blood sugar levels didn’t look too well last time, this three-month reprieve will also give me a chance to get all that under control too!

However, my infected thumb was a concern, so she sent me to Dermatology next and there went our long leisurely lunch. I had just enough time for a quick salad before seeing, Joe. Our favorite Dermatology PA. He checked out the infection and prescribed an antibiotic for two weeks. I hope this will clear up the infection and allow my thumb to heal.

Jack’s second appointment was with his Primary Care Doctor, and my concern for his health prompted me to sit in. This proved to be a good thing, as I found that he doesn’t tell her everything she needs to know to treat him successfully. I really like his doctor and by the time we left she’d scheduled blood work, x-rays and a shot for pain, physical therapy, and an evaluation before getting an injection in his hip.

As we left her office I heard from a very dear friend of mine that the results of her testing showed Stage 4 Cancer. It is not operable. She will see the Oncologists today, but she felt that there is probably nothing they can do.

The ride home seemed to take forever. I just wanted to get home, make a small dinner and call my friend back so we could talk. We did, but I felt devastated by her news and such love for this woman.

I sat, not doing anything, but feeling the waves of grief wash over me.

So, at the end of a good and productive day for us personally, was this news, more devastating than I can explain.

As I said, I’m sure everyone has days like this. But, it doesn’t make it any easier to endure.

Down 7 Pounds

After my first week of really cracking down on myself, I’ve lost 7 pounds. I admit this is not easy.¬† For a number of reasons, I am also determined to lose this weight.

First, there is nothing like turning 60 to give you a reality check. With cholesterol numbers that are far from impressive and blood sugars that go up and down like a yo-yo, I decided to be smart and just do this!

I eat three meals a day, plus I have a mid-afternoon snack. The snack has been an Atkins Shake. I do not use this as a meal, but as a snack because with 15 grams of protein, it really does give me a boost.

Do I miss bread, potatoes, and pasta? Probably the potatoes, but I’ve known for a while that pasta was not my friend, and very little bread thrills me these days, so no big loss. Now if I lived in Germany, with their awesome bread, it would be much tougher.

It’s sad to hear about George H. W. Bush. He was a good man, who tried his very best to serve his country. He also did not see Democrat or Republican after a person’s name and tried to work with everyone.

Loyal and true to the love of his life, Barbara Bush, the father of six children, and grandfather to 17 grandchildren, and two great-grandchildren. He was a loving and kind family man.

Rest in Peace, President Bush.


A View From The Cheap Seats!

My day actually started at 12:15 AM, or thereabouts. I woke feeling thirsty and after getting a drink flipped on the TV to get the Red Sox score. I quite literally got to watch the last three outs of the game, which found the Red Sox winning! 9-6!!!

I watched the hilarious movements of Red Sox pitcher, Craig Kimbrel. He has this ritualistic series of movements he goes through before each pitch! Still, watching him pitch was amazing. He was so icily calm!


So, there I was, feeling elated by this win, with no one but Mr. Arnie Man to share it with. And at that time of night, Arnie isn’t a baseball fan!

By the time we woke on Sunday, it was another gray rainy day here in New Hampshire. We’ve been having a lot of those lately. It was also another cold day with the highs only getting up to 42 degrees.

Our colors are still out there, but it is definitely past peak. Still, I can look out my window and see orange and yellow and some reds. Nice. In just a few short weeks our trees will be bare and will resemble skeletons against the winter skies.


I think the rest of the northern hemisphere had their clocks change last night. Ours do not change until next weekend. I wish they would just abolish the whole time change. It messes me up. It also messes up the dogs. What do you think?

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I woke to dark skies and cold temperatures. Brrrrr! I turned on the coffee and walked the dogs.. 36 degrees with a bit of a wind! As I returned to the kitchen, poured that first, wonderful, hot, cup of coffee, I smiled! Sometimes life (and a cup of coffee) is just so good!

So, what did I do with my day? Seriously, not too much. I drank a lot of tea, wrote a few letters and went out to get the mail before the rain began. And rain it did!


Quite honestly, I’ve been fighting something off the last few days. My only real symptom is a headache that will not go away! I’ve tried everything, but the blasted thing persists. This means early bedtimes and dim lights in the family room in the evenings.

I do have WW Class tomorrow. I have not been doing very well on the plan, but since I never give up on anything, I will go and listen and maybe even stay after class to go over the plan again with our leader. It’s frustrating, but I really want to do this.


The Brutality Of Mother Nature

I’m happy to report that a dear friend of mine in Panama City, FL is okay after Hurricane Michael went through. I’m not sure about her home or her place of business, but she and her kids are okay and I am thanking God for that!

Amanda W. was my house/doggy sitter when I lived in Punta Gorda, FL. She was in her last years of High School and took such good care of Max and Shubi. She has always been one of my favorite people.

Have you seen the devastation in the Panhandle of Florida? Two towns have been wiped off the map! I was shocked when I saw Mexico Beach, FL. It quite literally looks like a Bomb was dropped there.


I cannot fathom the destruction. I hope and pray that people heeded the warnings, and left their houses. There is nothing really left now.


It’s the unpredictability of the weather in Florida that caused me to want to move back home to New Hampshire. I can handle 4 feet of snow. I cannot handle Hurricanes, Tornados, Wildfires, and Torrential Rain, not to mention, Alligators, Snakes, Bugs of all kinds and sizes, as well as birds (Eagles & Vultures) that followed me every time I walked my little dackel, Shubi. In fact, I had an Eagle that took up residence at the top of our sailboats mast, just waiting to swoop in for a little dackel lunch!

Still, my heart breaks for these people as they set about rebuilding their homes and their lives. It won’t be easy, but I know what a hearty bunch those Floridians are.

Aches & Pains

I used to laugh at the old timers (anyone over the age of forty) who complained about their aches and pains. Surely they were making a mountain out of a mole-hill!

However, as I have aged, I realized that in your forties certain things begin to happen. Like when you wake in the morning and feel stiff. Then perhaps, you have a new ache or pain. Nothing significant, but it makes you aware that maybe your body did something it’s not used to.

Then the day arrives when you wake in the night with these strange body aches. What did I do to myself now?

Such was the case last night . I woke about 1:00 with pain in my right shoulder blade. You know, the good shoulder! Ugh. I took some Tylenol and tried to sleep, but each toss and turn reminded me that I’m not 22 anymore. (Even though it would be nice if I were!)

Today I cannot raise my arms up at all. It’s an instant ouchie! So I have been playing it cool and tried not to mention it. Or even acknowledge its existence!

But Jack and I were talking and he said he didn’t know what he did, but his shoulder blades were hurting him and he thought he may have pulled something yesterday. That’s when I laughed and told him that I was feeling slightly pained myself.

Aren’t we just a pair!