The Child In Time

Last night I was sitting here crocheting, Jack was working on our income taxes, and I was the sole operator of the remote control. I was looking for something to watch on the TV, when I happened upon  PBS and Masterpiece Theater’s version of “The Child In Time“.

Now I had read Ian McEwan book many years ago when it was first released. The plot was such, that I felt I probably understood more than many the feelings of the main characters.

The Child In Time follows Stephen Lewis (Benedict Cumberbatch), a children’s author, as he struggles to find purpose in his life after the loss of his daughter. His wife Julie (Kelly Macdonald) has left him and his best friends Charles (Stephen Campbell Moore) and Thelma (Saskia Reeves) have retired to the countryside, battling demons of their own. With tenderness and insight, the film explores the dark territory of a marriage devastated, the loss of childhood, the fluidity of time, grief, hope and acceptance.

I watched the Masterpiece Theater adaptation and I felt myself instantly, thrown back in time, in my own life, when my own daughter Katie, passed from this life, forever changing everyone I know in the process. For the loss of a child is the worst thing that can ever happen to you, and although you eventually find your way through to a new normal, a person is quite simply, never the same.

The acting in “The Child In Time” was amazing. I can see why people have been raving about Benedict Cumberbatch. He really was incredible. He quite literally, was the center of the movie. The supporting cast, was also excellent, not a bad actor among them. I can recommend this movie highly.

But I also recommend the book written by Ian McEwan. Author Christopher Hitchens viewed the novel as McEwan’s masterpiece. Writing about McEwan, Hitchens remarked the break out successes of “Amsterdam” in 1998 and “Atonement” in 2001 and but then said that “The Child in Time”  in 1987 was “still, in my view, his masterpiece”.

Having ready nearly all of McEwan’s books now, I can honestly say that “The Child In Time” is my favorite as well. For it touches so many places in ones mind and heart.

So go grab the book, it will not take you long to read through the 220 pages. Or watch for it on your local PBS station.

Come Saturday Morning

I woke on Saturday morning feeling drowsy and as though all I really wanted was to climb back into bed and sleep. But, I have four wonderful dogs, all of whom were wide awake, so I threw on my robe and brought them out to go outside, and then I turned the coffee maker on, let them in, and then raced to the shower, which was wonderfully hot!

After showering, I watched playbacks of the Olympics, and drank that all important first cup of coffee! Ahhhh, a great way to start the day!

I pulled out my crocheting and started working on that again, and actually got quite a bit done before Jack got up, and I made our breakfast.

I had a chance to Face-Time with Savannah, and she showed me her cast. Now a regular plaster cast is pretty heavy. But Savi was swinging that thing around like it was made of paper.

I could really relate because in 5th grade I fell down a sand dune on Cape Cod and broke a couple of metatarsal bones in my right foot. I was in a plaster cast like Savannah’s, only mine was a boring shade of white.

I really love being able to Face-Time with Amanda, Quinn and Savannah (oh yes, and Savi and Quinn’s cousin, Hannah was there too!). Seeing there faces and listening to them talk is so special.

After a light lunch, I told Jack I was going to bed for a nap. Greta and Arnie came with me, but only Greta stayed for the entire nap. She is always very happy when someone goes to bed for a nap!

Now, I just have to make something good for dinner (I have no clue what!) and then I can settle in and crochet and watch the Olympics tonight.

Sunday

Our Sunday was fairly quiet. I hadn’t slept well on Saturday, and I felt like doing nothing more than curling up in a warm corner, and going to sleep. But it seemed the dogs were barking at the ice fishermen, or the TV was on keeping me awake, so I never got a nice nap.

I did watch a few episodes of Dr. Pol, Veterinarian, which proved handy, later in my day, when Anneliese got into it with Greta and punctured her leg. I got everything I needed, cleaned the wound up and then wrapped it in sterile gauze. I will clean it again in the morning so I can get a good look at it.

Meanwhile, Anneliese is in the dog house with me, and my darling Greta is acting like she was killed. I’m allowing her to do this because, heck, at her age getting your butt served to you on  a platter, has to hurt ones pride.

I’m watching the Patriots and Eagles game, and at this point it is not clear who will win the Super Bowl. I’d like it to be the Patriots, but my exhaustion won’t allow me to stay awake.

I hope your weekends were good, and that the week ahead will be a happy one!

Update: The Patriots blew it and Philadelphia won! There was one Philly player who really wanted this win and he was on fire! Clearly he was a major factor in this win. I congratulate them. For us Pats fans remember, there is always next year!

A Beautiful Thing ~ Life!

I was thinking about how very blessed I am in this world. I have wonderful people that I love, and who love me in return. I walk outside and I see the beauty of nature, even in February, in the frozen North. It makes me glad when Spring arrives and brings with it the beauty of Summer. Look around. What makes you smile? What brings joy into your life? What makes you laugh with glee?

I think so often we get caught up with all the crap in life, and forget the beauty. Look around! See all that you have in your life that makes it worthwhile! It’s there. One has only to look.

If you are having trouble finding a happy place, watch this video and it will remind you of all there is to be happy about. All the wonder in life!

Weekend Wrap

The weekend seemed to rush by us, and I’m happy to report than we are both very nearly over our colds. Both of us had projects to do, and we actually got them done.

Our weather was good, and our temperatures actually warm. I simply cannot complain about that!

I cooked and did laundry, and Jack worked cleaning the ice from our driveway, and then on Sunday afternoon, we both watched the Patriots football game, and quite happily, they won!

I think my biggest grievance was watching the Patriots game and watching a Jacksonville Jaguar player hit a New England Patriots Player, injuring him. After a helmet-to-helmet collision with Jaguars safety Barry Church, deliberately injuring tight end Rob Gronkowski, “Gronk” had to exit the game. I saw it happen, and I leapt out of my chair screaming. Especially as I watched a a concussed Gronkowski stagger to his feet. I knew immediately that “Gronk” was done for the game.

The Patriots were not playing particularly well up until then, but it seemed the injury of their teammate spurred them on, and they came back to win!

But here I sit, Sunday night, and the weekend is just about over. I am finding that 2018 is flying by.

Out & About!

Friday found Jack and I actually getting out and going shopping! He had a short doctor’s appointment for his feet (all is well!) and afterward we shopped for groceries, and then we did something we haven’t done in a few months…We went out to lunch!

It was somewhat cloudy during our drive, but still amazingly pretty. I thought this because I have been house bound since Christmas and today I finally felt like I could take a deep breath!

We found some great deals at the grocery store, and tomorrow I think I will cook a nice plump chicken for our dinner. At 99¢ a pound, what can I say, such a deal, and I love a good deal!

As we were putting things into the car, I looked at Jack and asked him if he felt like going to our favorite Chinese Buffet? He was game for it, and off we went. The owner was pleased to see us, as was our favorite waitress. Again, so nice to be out and about!

When we got home I raced up to put the dogs outside, and walked them around a bit, before coming back in. I’d just taken off my coat when I heard a crash and saw Jack starting to fall up the stairs. I raced to his side and grabbed him, saw that he had scraped the top of his head on the door frame, and once I got him to his feet, helped him to his recliner and got ice for his head.

I finished unloading the car, and made him rest. After about an hour he said he was feeling better. I was so glad. I thought I was the only person who can fall up the stairs like that. Apparently not.

Life is going on, and both Jack and I are feeling well.

That means…life is good.

Have a great weekend everyone!

What I’m Up To!

We had close to a foot of snow yesterday, when all was said and done. The wind, which has been close to hurricane force, took much of this snow and rearranged it in our yard. Some places are nearly bare and others have close to two feet. It simply amazes me how the wind can rearrange things.

The wind is still blowing up a storm, but at least, it’s not snowing any more. For that I am grateful!

I stayed in today. And I may stay in again tomorrow. I think I need to let the antibiotics work and I actually have several things I need to get done. I think that this will be de-Christmas day. The window candles will get put away, as will my little Christmas tree and shelf ornaments. All dearly loved, put away for another year.

I have a new crocheting project starting next week. My first project is to make an afghan for my daughter. The pattern is a good one and I think I will be able to move right along with it, because…my next project is an afghan for one of my oldest friends.

Gail and I turn sixty this year and I want to do something special. An afghan if perfect.

Now here is the best part. While I was making Savannah’s afghan, I noticed my hands began to feel better, more limber. I have a little arthritis in the fingers, but the crocheting action really helped.

Progress reports to come!

 

Life Right Now

I woke this morning to a dusting of snow. Very pretty, couldn’t get much better, until I glanced out my window and saw this:

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Quite an amazing morning sky. As I sipped my coffee, I felt that this was a great way to start my day despite the fact that it was 6:45 AM!

The hounds were restless this morning, so I thought it was best to get up and take them out.

After a month of plugged up ears, my Primary Care doctor has referred me to and Ear, Nose & Throat doctor. I wonder how long it will take to get an appointment with them.

This is a happily busy week ahead for us. We have appointments all over the place, my 59th birthday is Friday and we are celebrating on Saturday with Mandy, Matt and the kids.

You know, no one ever tells you how wonderful being a grandmother is. I couldn’t possibly imagine loving any children as much as I loved my own, but this whole grandmother thing, is…WOW! When I see those little faces, smiling up at me, when I feel their arms around me, with the best hugs a woman can ever get, I feel like I have one the best Lottery ever!

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I also know I would do anything, go anywhere, to help out my grandchildren anyway I can! They have me totally wrapped around their fingers! And in the very best of ways.

You see, I really like my grandchildren. They are sweet, nice, and kind little people and the way their parents are raising them, I just know they will become incredible human beings.

Okay, enough with the grandmother bragging!

As my friends on Facebook know, Greta is not doing so well. She has a urinary tract infection, as well as geriatric problems with her hind end. We’ve started her on antibiotics, continuing the Metacam (anti-inflammatory/pain reliever, and keeping her comfortable. But very soon, I am afraid, Greta will be going to Rainbow Bridge.

Well, time for me to do my wifely duties and make breakfast! Have a wonderful day!:

Being Alone

I was thinking today about life. How each and every one of us has a very individual life, despite what we may share with family and friends.

I’ve had some moments, some times in my life, that I went through alone, with no one beside me. Be it a shopping trip, or a plane ride to see someone, or even going off to grocery shop, and stopping for a meal alone. Or even more challenging times.

The experiences are singular and we alone have the memories.

Some people might not like that idea. They’re very group oriented. And yet, it is the sweetness of our individuality, that can actually enrich our relationships with other people.

I value my alone time. My quiet time. I like to read, or write, or maybe cook something wonderful. But it’s during this time that my soul’s internal batteries recharge.

I think I was 7 or 8 years old when I realized I really liked being off by myself. Back then it was perfectly fine for your kid to ride their bike all around town. And I did.

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I rode to the local convenience store. Often getting bread, milk and cigarettes for my mother. Then riding home. Sometimes I rode to the beach and sat on the jetties watching the ocean.

On some occasions I had company, but more often then not I was alone. And that was just fine.

Looking back I realize the importance of learning to be alone. I never realized it until I was well into my 50’s.

Love yourself. Be happy with yourself, and the world will be full of adventures. Alone or with those you love!

The Medical Report

The last few days have been kind of crazy. Last Thursday Anneliese needed surgery on her chest. Well her Lymph gland actually. She had a growth that was causing her to limp. It was also causing her some pain and she did not want to be held.

I chose surgery for her, to get it removed. So last Thursday I drove her out, first thing in the morning, and dropped her off at the Veterinarian’s Office. The Vet noted that her teeth needed some cleaning, so I also sprung for a dental and nail trimming.

After I left her I drove back home and when I got back, Hubby came out and asked me to “doctor” his toe. He took off his bloody sock, and there was the most awful looking, infected toe that I have ever seen.

Hubby is a diabetic. The diabetes is so bad that he no longer has feeling in his feet. To him, he could see an infection, but he did not think it was bad because it didn’t feel bad.

Okay, now we could go round and round about this. But in the end, his toe was badly infected, and I knew he had to see a doctor quickly.

So, he called the Veteran’s Administration Hospital, and they told him what I had. He must come into Urgent Care to be evaluated.

He went off in one direction while I waited to hear about Anneliese.

Well, we all know that the VA doesn’t move very fast. In fact Urgent Care is definitely a misnomer. Nothing moves quickly there. So, Hubby spent most of the day waiting for care that he never got!

I picked up poor little Anneliese with her 2 inch incision (and many stitches) and met Hubby at home well after 6:00 PM.

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The next day, on Friday, I went with Hubby, back to the VA to see Hubby’s Podiatrist. I like Hubby’s Podiatrist. He is very good and cares very much about his patients.

He looked at the toe and cleaned it and cleared off the dead skin. Then he pointed out the ulcer on Hubby’s toe and showed me how to clean it and dress it.

So between the big toe on Hubby, and Anneliese’s belly, I have been kept quite busy as both Human and Veterinary Nurse. Both of my patients are doing well, although, truth be told, Anneliese is doing better than Hubby.

Hubby goes back this Friday to see the doctor again, and Anneliese goes back on June 15th to get her stitches out.

One thing is for certain, life is never dull!