Losses & Gains

2019 will be a year I will not easily forget. This has been the year that I have had to learn how to cope with and let go of many people who were very dear to me in life. I guess that everyone reaches a certain age when they start losing their peers, and so it has been for me.


There have been nine wonderful souls that departed my life this year. Several were very close to me and the pain I felt at their loss was very deep.

Now I am faced with yet another good friend being terminally ill. I know it will not be too long until she passes from this world to the next. She called me yesterday, out of the blue. I was cleaning my bathroom, but I stopped and talked to her. She told me she is now in Hospice Care. So, I know the time is close.

I’ve never handled death terribly well. I would cry and cry and go through periods of great depression after. But, somehow Candy taught me so much.

Since her passing, I have found a new relationship with God and when I feel unable to cope, I literally give it all to God. Ever been in a grocery store and heard someone say: “God, I can’t take it anymore so I’m taking all the problems and giving them to you!”

Yes, that was me. Whenever and wherever I am, I give it to God. It seems he is always around for me.

Psalm 119:114 – You are my refuge and my shield; I have put my hope in your word.

I also find that by asking for his help, I am comforted.


Jeremiah 33:3 – Call unto me, and I will answer thee, and show thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not.

It’s a place of deeper knowledge and comfort.

Getting It Done

Tuesday Jack and I spent down at the VA getting things taken care of.

He needed to get his hearing aid repaired, a financial matter is taken care of, and lastly a flu shot.

I was there to see my doctor about why I do not feel well. I had my exam with her, and tests have been ordered. I am hoping it is merely GERD, but she is leaning toward Gallbladder.

I had the blood work today and will go in early next week for the ultrasound. Then we will go from there.

Of course, she told me that if I  got sick in the meantime with severe pain to go straight to the hospital.

I also had a flu shot.

When we finished up it was lunchtime. We went to a restaurant and had a nice meal. And nice for me these days is bland. In fact tonight Jack is eating pizza and I am having eggs and toast.

The drive home was a pretty one and we even saw Wild Turkeys!

20151014_080704So although I still feel a tad under the weather, we did get an awful lot done! I love those kinds of days!


Today was beautiful. In fact, I felt like walking around our yard and I took a bunch of pictures. Lili, of course, was only too happy to pose for me.



Awww, my lovely Lili!

The tourists have all gone home. In a few weeks they will close up their camps and life in my small town will go back to a simple, quiet, normal. Oh, how I love this time of year!

I sidled up to the plum tree and grabbed a delicious succulent one, and wolfed it down. These are tiny little plums known as a Mount Royal Plum! Oh my goodness, so very good!

Tomorrow we have a man coming to see if he can fix the mess left by Sunday Paving & Sealing Company of Wolfborough, NH. These people worked on our driveway and 11 hours after they finished the driveway failed. They refuse to return our calls or to stop by. Anyone in my area thinking of using them, trust me, you do not want to do it! I will be filing a formal complaint with the Better Business Bureau!

We’re limited with time now, as in a few weeks our temperatures will drop and the ground will freeze. Oh my goodness, did I really write that? Yes, before we know it, winter will be here!

Sunday September 1st

Here we are, September first! Where did the time go? Where did the summer go?

The sun is setting earlier and soon the leaves will start to change color and true Autumn will be upon us.

I’ve been struggling with a cold the last few days. This morning after a rough night, I slept until 7:30. Even then I didn’t want to get up. But, I did, and while walking the dogs, I hung the bird feeders and then came in for my coffee.

I was feeling somewhat chilled and took my temperature. 100 degrees. No wonder I feel so listless.

I’m having a  challenge with my laptop. It’s almost like it is possessed. I am in the middle of typing when all of a sudden the cursor moves to a different paragraph, or in the case a few minutes ago, it simply took me to a new web page!

I am trying to figure out what is wrong, but I may need to clean my machine in hopes that this will help.

You know, at first I thought that perhaps I was bumping the touchpad with my fingers, but after carefully typing I realized that it is not me.

Did you watch the Coco Gauff and Naomi Osaka Match last night at the US OPEN? Not only was it a great game to watch, but at the end Naomi had Coco stay with her for the interview and she showed what a real champion does with a young girl. She was so kind and so gracious to Coco, that losing at such a high profile event was softened.

merlin_160022937_6f0c6dd2-2d3e-40b9-9e1c-a72873511696-articleLargeSo, great match Coco, great match Naomi, and bravo to bringing back kindness and class to the game of tennis!

Lovely Day

Friday afternoon some of our friends stopped by. Here in New England if you have fruits or vegetables to share, you share with your friends. Each year we share our apples and peaches with our friends. Today they came over with green beans, watermelon, and cucumbers from their garden.

We sat outside at our garden table talking and visiting. They all got to see my Christmas Cactuses and no one could believe how they have come alive!

While we sat there, the Downey Woodpecker came up to feed at the feeder near us, as did the Blue Jay and a Chickadee.

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The weather was perfect. Sunny, blue skies, about 80 degrees, and a very light wind. It just doesn’t get much better than this!

Around the House

On Saturday the driveway man came to add more stone and ledge pack to the upper part of the driveway. The nice man worked half the day yesterday and all day today getting the driveway just right.

The lower portion of the drive is paved, but the upper portion was not done due to frost heave possibilities and in the winter tar would ice up badly, where ledge pack (compressed dirt) gives you a better surface.


The last time we had this done was 2008. So actually the surface lasted a long time. Then, like everywhere in New Hampshire, we grew a boulder in our driveway. Below you will see Lili standing next to it. It’s amazingly huge! But as I have said before, we grow ’em big here in New Hampshire!


As you can see, that is one big rock! I also want to brag a little about Lili. As we walked up our 500-foot driveway, she was barking at a neighborhood dog (who was on a lead) I called to Lili, telling her to “Come Here” and shock up shock, she came right to my side! That is something new. How it happened I am not sure. Perhaps she finally understands what I am saying.

When I got back to the house I remembered talking about our rather dangerous wall and the drop. Below is a picture I took. Once again Lili is my model.

20190817_174337I’m still watching Downton Abbey and loving every minute. I was speaking to my sister today and I mentioned how much our mother would have loved this. Our grandmother too. So when I watch, I pretend they are watching with me.


Wonderful things have been happening in my little corner of the world. Lili had her day at the doggy spa and came home looking like this!

lili1She looks like a new dog! She was soft and shiny and minus about 15 pounds worth of fur! Yay!

We’ve had several beautiful sunsets this week too. I managed to catch the best one the other night! And considering I used my cell phone, the picture came out very well.


I’ve been enjoying watching Wimbledon Tennis too! I get up very early to catch the early matches, and so I have seen many of them. I am so taken with Coco Gauff! At 15 years old she has the determination, concentration,  poise, and talent, and is a joy to watch!


We went to a small gathering, as my neighbor dedicated his beautiful garden to his late wife, Gail. It was such a beautiful thing to see all the work he has done and how much thought he put into the gathering. His wife was such a sweet and amazing woman and we all miss her and her beautiful smile.

I tried a new medication for Lili. The poor girl freaks out with fireworks and I thought she would have a heart attack. I called the Vet who prescribed Sileo Gel. You draw it up in the applicator and shoot it into her cheek.

I was not sure it would work, but for the first time ever, Lili went through fireworks without a problem. Best of all, it does not make her groggy. It is great stuff!

Did you see the pictures of Prince Harry and Meghan Markels baby boy’s Christening? Absolutely adorable! The baby is so cute and I think he looks a lot like his Daddy but has his Mama’s eyes. I’m so happy they released a picture of Archie where you could see his cute face.

Well, that’s the latest from here! Have a good Sunday everyone!

In Memorium of Starling

After several weeks of feeding the birds, and enjoying them more than I can tell you, there was a death on our yard.

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Some of the larger birds at the feeder.

Yes, a cute little Starling flew into the sliding glass doors, more than likely to get away from a larger bird. But the end result was a thud on our sliding glass door.

I jumped to my feet and raced to the door and I could see the little birdie still alive. I grabbed my gloves and went out to see if I could save him the way I had to save Woody Woodpecker a few weeks before.

Unfortunately, Starling had broken her neck. As I carefully picked her up, she was struggling for breath. I carefully stroked her and spoke to her until she breathed her last.

Then I came inside and cried. I asked Jack to bury her little body. Which he did. While I went on the computer and ordered Bird Stickers for the windows.

Meanwhile, I have put stuff in the windows to prevent further deaths in my yard. But I am so sad to have lost little Starling.