1. to grant pardon for or remission of (an offense, debt, etc.); absolve.
2. to give up all claim on account of; remit (a debt, obligation, etc.).
3. to grant pardon to (a person).
4. to cease to feel resentment against: to forgive one’s enemies.

A while back, I did what I do best in life. I opened my mouth and inserted my foot. It’s not that I meant to, it was just a subject that I tend to have no control over the way I react.

I tried to apologize. I did everything I could think of to make amends, but nothing has worked, and since this occurred I actually have changed the way I handle difficult situations.

I realize that not everyone can like everyone in this crazy world of ours, but I think I am a pretty nice person. I try so hard and this is hurting me.

29 years ago when that impaired driver hit my car, I was so filled with hate and rage, that it all but consumed me.

I spent years in therapy to get to the point where I could forgive the man who did this. It was forgive or die for me.

Now it’s not like I saw him and gave him an easy pass of actually forgiving him. In fact the forgiveness was in my mind and my heart. I will never forget, but I did have to let it go.

I think letting go is part of the forgiving process.

(Isn’t it for everyone?)

Well, I will try to let it go. I do not want to begin a battle. I just need to walk away.

Have you had something like this happen? How did you handle things when after several apologies, you are not forgiven?

2 thoughts on “Forgiving”

  1. You have done all that you can to rectify the situation. Now let time take over and give the situation a rest. Sometimes distance froim the situation allows each party a different perspective. The other party seems to need to hold onto something so give it time and distance. Perhaps this technique will help

  2. I think when we offer a sincere apology that’s the best we can do. We can’t control how it’s received, but perhaps in time, the offended person will let go of what they’re holding on to. I think accepting an apology is sometimes as hard as offering one, but both things need to happen. We are only in charge of our behaviour and our side of the equation, so don’t beat yourself up if you’ve done what you can to remedy things.

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